Congratulations, dad-to-be! If you’re looking for survival strategies, dad hacks, and ways to make your first year of fatherhood smoother, you’re in the right place. Inspired by my own experiences (and a few lessons learned the hard way), here’s your quick no-nonsense guide to tackling the first 12 months of fatherhood like a pro.
1. Master the Art of the Nappy Change
Nappy duty is unavoidable, but there are ways to make it easier. Keep a well-stocked “changing station” with wipes, nappies, and distraction toys at arm’s reach. Bonus hack: a small nightlight helps with nighttime changes without waking the baby fully. And if you get hit with the mid-change wee fountain… well, welcome to the club.
Also, learn to speed-run a nappy change. The quicker you are, the less risk you run of a sudden mid-change incident. And don’t rely on just one changing station—have multiple spots around the house in mind. Convenience is key.
2. Conquer the Sleepless Nights
Your biggest opponent? Sleep deprivation. Work as a team with your partner—consider taking shifts, use naps strategically, and don’t be a martyr – it isn’t good in the long run. If you can get your baby into a sleep routine early, do it. Trust me, nothing tests your sanity like a 3am screaming session when you know you’ve got to be up for work in a few hours.
If all else fails, embrace the magic of the pram walk. Something about a moving pram can get babies to sleep like a charm. Bonus points if you listen to a podcast or watch sport on your phone while strolling.
3. The Bottle vs. Breastfeeding Dilemma
Regardless of how your baby is fed, your job is to support and help where you can. Learn how to prep bottles before the little one arrives, master burping techniques, and take the night feeds when possible. If your baby is formula-fed, have a look at bottle warmers—they might just be game-changers for you. Oh, and always have a muslin cloth nearby. Always.
Don’t underestimate the value of simply holding your baby during feeds. It’s a prime bonding opportunity. Even if you’re not feeding, being there matters.
4. Decode Baby Communication
Crying doesn’t always mean hunger. Overtired, overstimulated, gassy, or just being a tiny human figuring things out—there’s always a reason for a cry. It takes time, but soon you’ll recognise the difference between a tired whimper and a full-blown “fix this now” meltdown.
5. The Power of Dad Bonding
Skin-to-skin contact, silly voices, and dad-only playtime help create strong father-baby bonds. Try a daily “dad and me” time—even if it’s just chatting while changing a nappy. Not sure what to say, and feeling uncomfortable, particular in those early times? That’s totally OK. Just try. That’s what makes the difference. Football analysis works wonders too—your baby won’t know the difference between a bedtime story and a Champions League analysis.
Don’t be afraid to sing, either. Your baby doesn’t care if you’re off-key… most supporters are.
Final Thoughts
Fatherhood is an evolving journey. There will be messy moments, laughter, and sleepless nights, but with the right mindset (and a few dad hacks), you’ll navigate it like a champ. If you want more of these sorts of things, feel free to check out the rest of the dad blog or my book for first time dads. Welcome to dad club!