Becoming a first-time dad is like getting promoted to co-manager in a company you’ve never worked for, in an industry you’ve never worked in, with a co-manager who’s also not done the job before. Exciting? Absolutely. Terrifying? Also yes. But don’t panic! This short guide will walk you through everything you need to know, from pregnancy to the first year of parenting. As I wrote in Dad FC, my book for new dads, it’s all about learning on the job and embracing the chaos.
1. Pregnancy 101: What to Expect When You’re Expecting… a Baby (Not Just a Bump!)
Pregnancy isn’t just about your partner—it’s about both of you. Be there for scans, attend parenting classes, and yes, satisfy those midnight ice cream cravings. This is your pre-season training—put the effort in now, and you’ll be match-fit for when the baby arrives.
But beyond the basics, start thinking about the practical side of things. Where’s the baby going to sleep? What’s your plan for maternity or paternity leave? Is your car actually suitable for a car seat? Get involved in the decision-making early. The more hands-on you are now, the more natural it will feel when the baby is here. Prep is key. As my old P.E. teacher used to say ‘Fail to plan. Plan to fail’. That’s rich coming from a P.E. teacher. Sorry. Cheap shot.
2. The birth plan and delivery day
You’re not just a spectator; you’re part of the squad. Labour is intense, unpredictable, and emotional. Your role? Stay calm, be supportive, and don’t forget to pack the hospital bag. And trust me, bring snacks—hospital time can move at the speed of a VAR decision.
It’s also important to be ready for curveballs. Maybe the birth plan changes last minute. Maybe the midwife needs you to step up. Just roll with it and be the calming presence your partner needs. And for the love of football, don’t complain about being tired. Your other half is doing the heavy lifting—literally.
3. The First 12 Months: The Baby Bootcamp
Your newborn’s first year will test your endurance, patience, and sleep deprivation limits. Nappy changes, feeding schedules, and sleep training will become your new normal. It’s like an away match in the toughest league—you’ll have rough nights, but the wins (first smiles, first giggles) make it all worth it.
Also, get comfortable with everything changing quickly, and with multitasking. You’ll be amazed at what you can do with one hand while holding a baby in the other—cooking, texting, even celebrating a last-minute winner on TV…silently It’s a skill worth mastering.
4. The emotional rollercoaster of fatherhood
Becoming a dad is about responsibility and transformation. You’ll have moments of pure joy, sheer frustration, and total exhaustion. That’s all normal. You’re learning a whole new game. Just remember, nobody gets sent off for making mistakes, but showing up every day is non-negotiable.
And don’t forget to check in with yourself. Postnatal depression isn’t just a mum thing—it affects dads too. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, talk about it. You’re not alone in this.
5. How to be a calm, confident parent
Babies don’t come with manuals, and Google or AI or whatever else you want to refer to can be a total minefield. Some days will be absolute carnage. The key? Keep your cool. Take deep breaths, accept that sleep is at a premium, and focus on the basics: feed, change, cuddle, repeat. And when in doubt, football commentary works wonders as a bedtime story.
Another thing, be prepared to develop a “dad reflex.” Babies are unpredictable, and you’ll need to be on your toes. Catching a falling dummy mid-air or preventing a milk explosion before it happens? That’s elite-level parenting.
Final thoughts
Fatherhood isn’t about being perfect—it’s about showing up, learning on the go, and cherishing the chaos. You’ve got this, dad!